flatastic

I questioned how updated these profiles are because I saw multiple girls saying they moved to a different city that wasn’t Dallas… but they used to be in Dallas. This app wasn’t making it much easier for me to make friends if I had to sift through a bunch of people who weren’t interested anymore.

It makes me think that making friends might not be too different from dating

I saw a lot of girls refer to loving brunch and the Bachelor in their bio. It was pretty generic, and I was shocked that this was a thing. I found myself looking for girls who were more than these two items. If their bio had some mention of being engaged or having kids, it was an immediate left swipe for me. It went back to finding people who were in the same life stage as me, but I realized how surface level that criteria was. Just because someone had kids or a significant other didn’t mean they couldn’t be a good friend. But, there I was going through a checklist subconsciously, checking off boxes, and looking for red flags. It felt so superficial to me, but I’m sure other people were doing the same thing to me.

Maybe it was the Greek letters in their bio or their proclaimed love for wine and margs (which I like too

There’s something about the way some of these girls looked that made me think they wouldn’t want to be friends with me. .. but I don’t feel the need to profess my love for them in my profile) or their Southern look. On appearance alone, I didn’t think they would want to be friends with me; however, it didn’t stop me from swiping right on them, but it’s a little sad that I had these thoughts because it made me think about how shallow even friendships can be. (more…)